For me?

Overview


  • Millions of people are affected by thes excessive drinking of someone close. Al-Anon is for families, relatives, and friends whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. If someone close to you, such as a family member, friend, coworker, or neighbor, has or had a drinking problem, the following questions may help you determine if Al-Anon is for you.
Did you grow up with a problem drinker?
Are you troubled by someone's drinking?
  • 1.
    Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
  • 2.
    Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
  • 3.
    Do you fear criticism
  • 4.
    Do you overextend yourself?
  • 5.
    Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
  • 6.
    Do you have a need for perfection?
  • 7.
    Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
  • 8.
    Do you feel alive in the midst of a crisis?
  • 9.
    Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
  • 10.
    Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
  • 11.
    Do you isolate yourself from other people?
  • 12.
    Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
  • 13.
    Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
  • 14.
    Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
  • 15.
    Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
  • 16.
    Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and/or abusive?
  • 17.
    Do you cling to relationships because you are a afraid of being alone?
  • 18.
    Do you often mistrust your own feelings and the feelings of others?
  • 19.
    Do you find it difficult to express your emotions?
  • 20.
    Do you think someone’s drinking may have affected you?
  • 1.
    Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
  • 2.
    Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
  • 3.
    Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?
  • 4.
    Do you feel if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
  • 5.
    Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?
  • 6.
    Are plans frequently upset or canceled, or meals delayed because of the drinker?
  • 7.
    Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?
  • 8.
    Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?
  • 9.
    Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
  • 10.
    Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?
  • 11.
    Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
  • 12.
    Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
  • 13.
    Do you search for hidden alcohol?
  • 14.
    Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
  • 15.
    Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
  • 16.
    Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to in order to control the drinker?
  • 17.
    Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
  • 18.
    Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
  • 19.
    Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
  • 20.
    Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

Al-Anon Family Intergroup of Greater New York, Inc.
4 West 43rd Street, Suite 617
New York, NY 10036
Telephone: 212.941.0094 Fax: 212.941.6119
Email: info@nycalanon.org